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What Is A Soulmate?

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As the American writer Richard Bach said, “A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are.”

Ah, soulmates. The epitome of love and partnership. In our fast-paced chaotic world, which boasts all sorts of different people, we find ourselves skimming through more relationships than we’d like in order to find that one person who can truly open our locks.

Not just anyone can fulfill you the way your soulmate can. There’s a world of a difference between your soulmate, your heart’s other half and a life partner — a person who lacks the elements to mold perfectly to you. Your soulmate makes you feel entirely whole, healed and intact, like no piece is missing from the puzzle. A life partner, on the other hand, can be a great supporter and long-time companion, but is limited in his or her capacity to enrich your spirit.

Most of us remain in life-partner relationships because we “settle,” for a multitude of reasons. Firstly, we may have a real subconscious fear of being alone. And since we’re biologically designed to fall in love, it’s only natural that we pair up in this world. But we sometimes prolong what are meant to be temporary relationships and mistakenly settle into them for good. There are relationships which must last for a certain period of time to close out a karmic chapter of life, relationships in which we’re meant to have children with our partner but not necessarily remain with them, and relationships which are just plain confusing because a melting pot of emotions doesn’t allow us to see our predestined path.

From couples who married their childhood loves to people in their retirement years who still struggle with commitment issues. Most of us fall somewhere between these two extremes, meaning that we experienced several relationships before finding the person we believe to be our perfect pairing. Whether you’re currently married, in a relationship, or contemplating entering a relationship with a new love interest, it is crucial that you know what role this person will play in your life. After all, there’s no avoiding the inevitable, often uncomfortable question we must ask ourselves: Is this the person I was bound by destiny to share my life with? Or did I settle too quickly into a relationship with someone who can never complete me?

No matter the category you fit into to, there are several indications which clearly outline a soulmate bond (or a lack of bond) between you and your partner. As you go through this list, think about your partner or potential partner and evaluate whether they meet the soulmate criteria.

The 10 Elements of a Soulmate:

1. It’s something inside. Describing how a soulmate makes you feel is difficult. It’s a tenacious, profound and lingering emotion which no words can encompass.

2. Flashbacks. If your partner is your soulmate, chances are he or she has been present in your past lives. Soulmates often choose to come back together during the same lifetime and scope each other out in the big world. You might suddenly and briefly experience flashbacks of your soulmate. You might even feel an odd sense of déjà vu, as if the moment in time has already taken place, perhaps a long time ago, perhaps in a different setting.

3. You just get each other. Ever met two people who finish each other’s sentences? Some people call that spending too much time together, but I call it a soulmate connection. You might experience this with your best friend or your mother, but it is the telltale sign of a soulmate when you experience it with your partner.

4. You fall in love with his (or her) flaws. No relationship is perfect, and even soulmate relationships will experience ups and downs. Still, that bond will be much harder to break. Soulmates have an easier time of accepting, even learning to love, each other’s imperfections. Your relationship is more likely to be a soulmate match if you both love each other exactly as you each are, accepting both the great and awful tendencies we all have.

5. It’s intense. A soulmate relationship may be more intense than normal relationships, in both good and sometimes bad ways. The most important thing is that, even during negative episodes, you’re focused on resolving the problem and can see beyond the bad moment.

6. You two against the world. Soulmates often see their relationship as “us against the world.” They feel so linked together that they’re ready and willing to take on any feat of life, so long as they have their soulmate by their side. Soulmate relationships are founded on compromise and unity above all else.

7. You’re mentally inseparable. Soulmates often have a mental connection similar to twins. They might pick up the phone to call each other at the exact same time. Though life may keep you apart at times, your minds will always be in tune if you are soulmates.

8. You feel secure and protected. Regardless of the gender of your partner, he or she should always make you feel secure and protected. This means that if you’re a man, yes, your woman should make you feel protected, too! Your soulmate will make you feel like you have a guardian angel by your side. A person who plays on your insecurities, whether consciously or subconsciously, is not your soulmate.

9. You can’t imagine your life without him (or her). A soulmate is not someone you can walk away from that easily. It is someone you can’t imagine being without, a person you believe is worth sticking with and fighting for.

10. You look each other in the eye. Soulmates have a tendency to look into each other’s eyes when speaking more often than ordinary couples. It comes naturally from the deep-seated connection between them. Looking a person in the eye when speaking denotes a high level of comfort and confidence.

Whether you’re designed by the universe to be soulmates or two loving people who have settled for each other’s strengths and weaknesses, the decision is yours. The beauty of free will is that you can remain in or change any relationship as you see fit. To be with your soulmate is one of the precious treasures of life. And if you feel you’ve found your heart’s other half, I wish you endless days of joy and laughter, and countless nights of deep embrace, unraveling the mysteries of the universe one by one.

Death Card In Tarot Reading Is Not A Bad Thing

Fortune Telling Cards

The Death card shows Death himself riding on a white horse, holding a black and white flag. Death is portrayed as a skeleton as the skeletal bones are the part of the body that survives death. The armor he is wearing indicates that he is invincible and unconquerable. Indeed, no-one has yet triumphed over death. The horse that Death rides is white, the color of purity. Death is therefore the ultimate purifier. All things are reborn fresh, new and pure. Notice even the bishop paying homage to him. All sectors of the human race are represented here – men, women and children – showing that Death does not discern between age, race or gender.

The banner that Death carries has a black background, indicating an absence of light. The white rose, on the other hand, indicates beauty, purification and immortality. In the background of the card, there is a rising sun, a sign of immortality. The sun appears to ‘die’ each night but is reborn fresh and new every morning. The two pillars are guarding the gateway to the sun, symbolizing the knowledge needed to gain immortality. The boat on the water in the background is the ferry that transports the souls across the River Styx. The background is a neutral grey, again showing Death’s impartiality.

Death is ruled by Scorpio (the sign of ‘sex, death and taxes’) and the number is 13, sacred to the Goddess as there are thirteen moons in a year.

How To Contact Your Spirit Guide

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Spirit Guides are among our greatest allies and grant us both protection, vision and courage to help us navigate the unseen realms. Forging this relationship must be viewed as one of the fundamental practices to spiritual development.

With these myriad spiritual energies surrounding us all the time, it is of greatest benefit to hear the lessons they are offering us which will aid and ease our human experience.

James Van Praagh reminds us we are spiritual beings having a human experience. To be in intimate connection with these guiding benevolent forces gives us strength, hope and direction in a challenging world.

Like a budding friendship, getting to know them is natural and easy. No special honing psychic ability exercises are required but rather an open heart and ability to listen are your best assets. Without stress or strain, they are always near awaiting an opportunity for connection, guidance and insight. To become a clear channel, simply relax, trust and allow yourself to feel their loving presence.

Types of Spirit Guides

We are blessed with love reverberating through us always. Many assistants are in place to ensure our spiritual well being and evolution. Though we’ll use the term interchangeably, here are the most common Spirit Guides which you may encounter:


Most prevalent and trusted, it is the Angels who are in devotion to humanity. Archangels can be many places at once while personal Guardian Angels are in service to us individually.

Power Animals

Recognizing the wisdom of the animal kingdom, shamanic cultures work with Power Animals as personal totems of power. When we can embody the raw attributes of animals, we can be imbued with courage, focus and transcendence.


Earth energies are in constant cohabitation with humans. Tree spirits, fairies, Air and Water beings will all fall under this category.

Different from Angels, they are not devoted to human expansion, rather they are in loving service to the planet. They willingly help individuals when respect and honor of the Earth has been consistently demonstrated.


Our first place of love and connection, it is our Ancestors who can most readily assist us. Replying to the request from their own bloodline, they act as fierce and protective Spirit Guides and should be our first point of contact.

The African wisdom traditions honor this ancestral blessing inherently. We in the west however have fallen out of partnership with lineage spirits, preferring the omnipotent Angels. This is somewhat foolish for it is the ancestor’s commitment to the healing of their own descendants which make them arguably our strongest assets in the Spirit Realms.

Ascended Masters

Those beings who have achieved enlightenment are dedicated to assisting humanity on our own ascension. St Ger-main, Buddha, Jesus, Metatron and Quan Yin are among the many faces of these guiding forces which are readily available to us and will often appear in our meditations.


Contacting our Spirit Guides is one of the most readily available gifts to humanity. Yet few of us may remember how. There is no training required in learning how to contact your Spirit Guides rather a gentle and loving heart will draw in exactly the blessings you seek.

Here’s the best ways to be in communication with these beneficent forces:

1. Set the Mood

As with all ceremony, your physical environment should be prepped to support these subtle energies. Light a candle, dim the lights, clear your clutter and create a peaceful space. Bring into this setting any objects of power which hold significance – crystals, sacred objects and spiritual art. These will form your ritual space and amplify the intentions of your connection.

2. Craft a Clear Intention

All spiritual endeavors (heck, all endeavors!) should be carried out with clear intention. With whom do you wish to work? What questions are you hoping to address? With clear focus, we can call in the beings most suited to answer our queries.

If working on self healing, a gentle loving energy may be a perfect partnership – think Quan Yin or Mother Mary. If we are seeking profound teachings, an Ascended Master like St. Germain or Buddha may be more suited. Carry a pure directive in your heart and you will attract the loving energy of the Guide most suited to assist you.

3. Practice with Loving Patience on Yourself

We easily forget the ease of this gentle process! There is no need to feel rushed nor hurried. The messages will sweep over you as gently as the wind and it is only your ability to receive that will block your connection. As with breath, this communication with Spirit is our most primal and it cannot be done from the mind.

Set no expectations – this way of being is rarely like fireworks! Rather with patience and trust, you will find yourself in communion with the divine energy forces at work all around you.

4. Relax and Breathe

Breathe is among our most available treasures and the surest way to bring ourselves in to the present moment. With each breath, allow your awareness to deepen and become softer. No strain nor stress.

If you find yourself tense, stretching can alleviate some of this built up energy. Laying down is also a grand idea but don’t make yourself too comfortable or you may find yourself wonderfully asleep!

To find yourself in the stillness of breath will open potent gateways to spirit. In the quiet center where the mental chatter ceases is where you will find the whisperings of your Spirit Guides.

5. Call in Protection

As with all spiritual work, the dictates of your heart will call in like frequencies. A simple clearing will bless yourself and the space.

Envision yourself in a pyramid of white light and let these energies wash away anything not of your highest living good. When you are ready, relaxed and willing to allow the messages to come to you, ask that the most loving energy willing to assist you be called forth now.

6. Sacred Sounds

The most profound of all sacred sounds is our own voice. Chanting is the process by which we make the sounds of the universe. Making these sounds raises our vibrations and attunes our energy to the most powerful forces of spirit.

Chant “Om” (Phonetically, this sounds like: AaaaUuuuMmmm) seven times to align your energy with that of the divine. You will quickly discover chanting to be a perfect portal to contacting your spirit guides.

7. Go through the “Door”

As your breathing slows and sacred space is activated, you may notice a shift in your being. This is the turning on of your light body which will magnetically attract the Spirit Guides, Angels and Ascended Masters.

  • Focus on your light body for this is the aspect of you that is pure spirit.

  • See yourself walking through a “doorway” into another dimension. This is not always a literal doorway… sometimes we see it as a cosmic space, sometimes a beautiful landscape that inspires wonder or bathing yourself in a vibration of color. We all have our own entries to the beyond and you will soon discover that which is best for you.

  • You will notice an expanse of infinite space around you. It is in this space that we are open, available and altered enough from our everyday spaces to meet with our Guides.


8. Invite in your Spirit Guides and Angels

In the bliss of the abyss, call in your personal Guides and Angels. Share with them your intention and give them clear permission to join with you. We live in a free will universe where our command is the most respected and honored of all sacred laws. If you do not explicitly give permission, you may miss their encounters and simply enjoy the rest offered in this sacred space.

9. Open yourself to Subtle Frequencies

Their messages may come as visions, impressions, smells or thoughts. I wish the messages were always blazingly clear, but this is often not the case. Pay attention to everything you experience for it is their direct way of being in communication with you now.

10. Ask for a Sign

This too is a flexing of our free will… and we are dense and doubting creatures. Ask for a sign in your day-to-day life that affirms your connection and the messages they offer. Please don’t see this as “telling them what to do,” rather it is a way of loving reassurance that will bolster your faith in them. This is a sure way they can express their presence and they are happy to oblige so long as you ask!

On many occasions this is the most magical of all forms of communication!

11. Ask for a message or a blessing

Spirit Guides are in service to us and as such they can only help in the ways we explicitly ask. Beyond the validation of a sign, ask for a message or a blessing while you are in sacred connection with them. This could be guidance, insight or a sneak peek at what’s in store. The blessing could be a healing or an activation of your psychic skills. Please do not feel bad asking and instead see this as their devotion and love for you put to work!

12. Give thanks!

We all like to be appreciated and this small act from you will ensure you continue to incur their goodwill. Gratitude is our way of opening to more blessings when we can be humble and acknowledging of those that have already been granted.

Expressing thanks aloud will give your ceremony extra credence as it shows them resolutely you know they are there and are willing to bring your voice and your will to the reality of their presence.

13. Return

When walking through these sacred dimensions, we must take precautions to return the ways we came. See yourself leaving through the same means you entered taking any paths you may have ventured. Ask your Guides to help you with this with zero stress…they know the way!

Soul fragmentation occurs when we leave behind pieces of ourselves (in both physical and non- physical realities). To retrace carefully your steps ensure you gather all aspects of yourself and can bring our full power and potential back to you now.

Allow yourself time to come fully back into your body. You may choose to write down your experience or take a nap to integrate. Be gentle as you allow this state and experience to be received at all levels of your being.

You may feel yourself a bit altered after these encounters, take that as a sign in your body that something had indeed occurred! Eating, walking in nature and baths are a perfect way to bring you back to you.

14. Living in the Sacred Everyday

Sacred space is best honored when we recognize it is a thriving part of our reality. To only visit once shows little regard for the relationships formed. Instead, know this place of loving support is available to you always and make use of it!

I tend to visit not just when I need help but anytime. Sharing your blessings with them and acknowledging their part goes far! They like to know their efforts are not only appreciated but are working to help us be better humans.

To join in these spaces of communication with our Spirit Guides regularly reminds us the world is far more expansive than what most people believe. It will enhance our psychic abilities, ensure we are on the right track and can lead to fulfilling our destiny. Before long our ability to receive these messages can occur outside of sanctioned ritual and we begin to receive messages all the time.

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